Silent Sorority

Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos accepts an Award for Best Book

About the Book

Recommended Resource: 2011
Our Bodies, Ourselves edition

Winner of the 2010 Team RESOLVE Choice Best Book Award

" ... a rare jewel."

" ... one of those books you just can't put down."

Surviving infertility when celebrity and news magazines, TV programs, Facebook pages and "mommy blogs," routinely and glowingly share family-building successes isn't easy. The voices of those who are unable to have children are hard to find. That's what makes Silent Sorority unusual and refreshing. It is irreverent as well as moving in relating what happens when nature and science find their limits.

Outside of the physical reckoning there lies the challenge of moving forward in a society that doesn't know how to handle the awkwardness of infertility. With no Emily Post-like guidelines for supporting couples who can't conceive, most well-intentioned "fertile" people miss the mark. Silent Sorority offers an unflinching and insightful look at what it's like to be invisible in an era of designer babies and helicopter parents.

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What People Are Saying About Silent Sorority...

"After years of unsuccessful fertility treatments, Tsigdinos stopped, becoming an online hero for documenting her journey away from motherhood." - Katrina Onstad, The Globe and Mail

"Pamela's 'silent sorority' of women who can’t conceive are becoming more vocal. These days, many women are sick of the whispers. They're infertile and they're not ashamed." - Piper Weiss, Pop sugar /Yahoo

“Mother’s Day looks different from where she stands.” - Lisa Belkin, The New York Times

"Tsigdinos has given a voice to infertile women's experience." - Bitch Magazine

"One of the few memoirs I’ve read where there isn’t a ‘happy baby ending’. The world needs more of  these and Pamela Tsigdinos is an inspirational spokeswoman for the baby-less generation." - Jessica Hepburn, In Pursuit of Motherhood

Silent Sorority is a brave book and a gift to all infertile women, whatever stage of the journey they may be on.” - Kate Johnson, NBC/iVillage

“An intelligent social commentary on our mommy-centric culture and what it's like to be childless-not-by-choice when everyone around you is baby-mad." - Lisa Manterfield, I'm Taking My Eggs and Going Home

"Witty, fun, heartbreaking, and absolutely bittersweet.” - Marcie Pickelsimer, Grown In My Heart

"I know that I am not the only one who has been emboldened by Pamela's story. See for yourself. Buy her book, read it and go to her blog and see for yourself the power of being part of this Silent Sorority. We are not alone." --

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